Vaginal Dryness in Menopause: A Gynecologist's Guide to Relief
By Somi Javaid, MD, FACOG, Board-Certified OB/GYN
You're not imagining it, and you're not alone
As estrogen falls in perimenopause and menopause, the tissue of the vagina and vulva becomes thinner, drier and less elastic. Doctors call this genitourinary syndrome of menopause, or GSM. It affects roughly 27% to 84% of postmenopausal women, and it's likely underdiagnosed and undertreated (The Menopause Society, 2020). Unlike hot flashes, it usually doesn't go away on its own.
The good news: in most cases, symptoms can be managed effectively.
Signs to watch for
Dryness, itching or burning
Pain or discomfort with sex
Light bleeding after sex
Needing to urinate more often, or more bladder infections
Any bleeding after menopause should be checked by a clinician, even if it seems minor.
Lubricant vs. moisturizer: they're not the same
This is the step many women skip.
Lubricants reduce friction during sex. They give short-term relief only. Water-based and silicone-based options are both fine; pick one you like. Oil-based lubricants weaken latex condoms, and silicone lubricants shouldn't be used with silicone toys.
Vaginal moisturizers are for maintenance, used regularly whether or not you're having sex, typically 2–3 times a week. They help the tissue hold water. Many contain hyaluronic acid.
Expert guidelines list regular moisturizers plus lubricant with sex as first-line treatment for mild symptoms (ICSM 2024 recommendations, Sexual Medicine Reviews, 2025).
When to ask about prescription options
If over-the-counter products aren't enough, low-dose vaginal estrogen, vaginal DHEA and other prescription options are effective for moderate to severe symptoms (The Menopause Society, 2020). Low-dose vaginal estrogen acts locally. If you've had breast cancer, talk with your oncology team; non-hormonal products are usually first, and local hormones can sometimes be considered with shared decision-making (NAMS/ISSWSH consensus, 2018).
How to bring it up with your clinician
You don't need the perfect words. Try: "I've had vaginal dryness and it's affecting my comfort and my sex life. What are my options?" A good clinician will take it seriously.
My picks
The moisturizers and lubricants I recommend to patients, each with a short note on why. See my Vaginal dryness picks →
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